For me this is a fallacy.
Who determines what true success is? Success is subjective to the individual and one person’s success cannot be defined by anyone other than themselves.
This is a lesson I’ve long been trying to learn and I think I’ve finally been able to hand in my paper on the subject, and the beautiful thing is I now realise that I don’t need it to be graded by anyone other than myself. I feel when we can all individually grasp this idea that we can all find the holy grail of the meaning of life, contentment.
As far back as I can remember I was taught alongside my fellow students at school that success was all about achieving good grades, which would lead to a good job, which would lead to a healthy paycheque, this in turn would lead to a nice home, a nice car and luxurious holidays, designer labels in our walk in wardrobes and the admiration of our peers.
I have long chased the ‘success’ that other people and society has dictated for me, and it has brought me nothing but stress, disappointment and left me feeling unfulfilled.
I’ve finally managed to let go of several things that have haunted me for years through exploration of many countries, many cultures, and talking to many interesting and varied people along the way I’ve gained the necessary knowledge and experience to find the keys I needed to free myself of these weights around my neck and ankles.
I left Sweden June 9th again chasing the idea of ‘success’ and it brought me nothing but misery and at great personal expense. What it did give me though money won’t ever be able to buy. I finally felt that Stockholm was my ‘home’ and I missed my life here. I finally accepted my contentment and feelings of fulfilment do not need to be measured against anyone else’s, that they are mine and mine alone and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks to them.
Since I came back home 3 weeks ago I have had the most incredible feelings of inner peace, something I’ve spent 14 years in the pursuit of. I can’t remember ever feeling more positive in those 14 long years and these positive feelings have acted as a magnet for positivity to bump into me literally around every corner since I’ve been back in Stockholm.
If you’re going to live as part of the flock you might not ever find your individual space where you can sit quietly in contentment. If that’s not something you need at this point of your life that’s great, but I truly believe that at some stage everyone will ask themselves ‘what’s the point of my life?’. It’s something I was asked on a second fika a week or so ago.
I was able to reflect instantly over my last 14 years and respond
‘for me, there is no real ‘point’ to life. We’re here to simply make the most of the time we have and it’s the personal connections we make with the people that we meet in our time here that give our lives meaning. Moments like this’.
Stop worrying about what you don’t have, what you can’t change, and concentrate on what you do have, and what you can make better in your own life.
That is the secret to success.
I’ll leave you with something my Greek grandfather told me as a child, and it is something that’s always been with me even if I’ve not been able to adhere to it at all times up until this point through trying to live to please everyone else.
‘Andrew, if you like it everybody likes it’
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